Friday, July 18, 2014

What is TOUGH LOVE??? and what is PLAIN INSENSITIVE behave???

What is TOUGH LOVE??? and what is PLAIN INSENSITIVE behave???

A CASE STUDY: from elsewhere on FB (by Jessica Opare-Saforo of Citi FM)



A friend called me last night sobbing... telling me how hard things are for her and her decision to 'end it all.' My reply? 'You will get no sympathy from me'. #toughLove.

Before u judge me about being insensitive. .. This is my reason I said that.
That phone call made me realise something.
It's easy for us to slip into depression about all the things going wrong in our lives. The devil whispers into our ears and tells us what a bad person we are, tells us we are a failure, that we don't deserve to live this beautiful gift called life that God has freely given. It gets hard, there are no shortcuts, no free tickets, just the cold hard truth that we are above all else... human and therefore fallible. Yes! So is Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey etc. I don't really know their religious affiliations or am I one to judge them, but if they can succeed, if they didn't give up in spite of their many challenges... how much more you who puts your trust in the Almighty God, the giver of life? Ei... wipe those tears... u are putting God to shame. Has He not blessed you beyond your expectations? Look around u. people are going to bed hungry, ppl are riddled with infirmity, ppl are barren, ppl are desperate for money to pay for their most basic needs. Ppl have REAL problems. Put The Devil To Shame And Praise God thru your circumstance. You have it better. You have it well.' (I rest my case)




MY TAKE #1


You said: {people are going to bed hungry, ppl are riddled with infirmity, ppl are barren, ppl are desperate for money to pay for their most basic needs. Ppl have REAL problems} Now you are acknowledging that there are some people in this bracket all the time?? What if your friend is this bracket and you are busily denying this reality.?? What you should do is empathise with your friend and get this friend out if this bracket? Being in Denial is not the same as being hopeful. Jesus said the poor will always be amongst you? Different people will slip into poorer situations from time to time but we all help either other out.

>>>> Someone said: IMPATIENCE leads to all the complaints:

>>>> ANSWER: the day you get swept by life. you see what patience mean. insensitive denial selfies.



MY TAKE #2


What if the call was from the sister of your friend who said your friend complained of the same issues (you are not willing to listen) the previous night and then took his/her own life?? Would you have launch the same self righteous insensitive sermon? NOT AT ALL. You will say "he/she could have just asked me instead of bringing sorrow to me"...... Before you motivate someone by pointing to the good in their life, you ought touch their heart and calm them down, assure them of your care. when their head is up you can then tell them to match on with hope. Unless unless, this person in question is some careless, irresponsible, selfish person. Then by all means your choice of sermon is understandable. I am really ticked of about this issue because I think it is exactly what is killing our country GHANA. Everybody is MISCHARACTERIZING the neighbour conditions and prescribing NONSENSE are medicine.


LETS SEE.

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